My Purpose in Life
What if I had discovered Co-Counseling while I was a young adult in college?
Over thirty years ago I was awarded a scholarship to attend the University of Arizona (USA). I was a young adult woman of color beginning a journey of isolation, hard work, financial stress, and cultural shock.
My parents protected me from “wild parties” by discouraging me from living in the dormitories. I lived at home with my four siblings and commuted each day to the university. The contrast of my home life with the academic world was confusing and embarrassing. The beautiful manicured landscaping, tall buildings, modern gym, and large library did not resemble anything in my barrio.
If I had discovered Co-Counseling as a young adult, I would not have my chronic patterns of guilt, shame, and anxiety. I believe that teaching Co-Counseling to young adult women of color is my purpose in life.
I invited six young adult women to my home to learn about Co-Counseling. We gathered around my kitchen table, getting to know each other. The smell of cafecito (small cups of coffee), warm tortillas, and breakfast filled the air. Building close relationships with other women of color is fun and meaningful. After some RC theory, we took turns having sessions. The room was full of tears and laughter. Some RC leaders came to support me. The experience was a contradiction to shame and isolation. It was also great for the young adults to notice their own distress recordings.
I am excited that I am committed to making RC more accessible to young adult women of color.
Tucson, Arizona, USA
(Present Time 192, July 2018)