Figuring out how to support people who have been targeted by oppression always requires those of us who haven't been targeted to do more towards people, more consistently, than was ever done toward us and that we have been conditioned to think is an unreasonable amount. We're just confused. Everyone needs people to reach for them thoughtfully and consistently far more than we are encouraged to do in our societies. Making these efforts toward targeted people helps those of us who haven't been targeted realize the efforts we'd like to make toward each other. So it's for our benefit.