What’s the reality? You are surrounded by people wildly eager to become good counselors for you if you will just do what is necessary to train them to be good counselors for you. 


Should you have to do that? Not in any reasonable world. Of course not. They should be waiting for you when you are born. Were they? No. Everybody did their best, but there aren’t any good counselors waiting for you anywhere. The hard line has to be true, that the counselor you want and need is the one that you yourself are going to train to counsel you well.