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One Person Can Make a Relationship Go Well

It only takes one person deciding to be rational to make a relationship go well (it does not require the other person to decide to). So there is no need to “wait” for the other person to be “reasonable” for the first person to take charge of a relationship.

Harvey Jackins

From The List, page 115

(Present Time 186, January 2017)

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