Clarifying Relationships
Most people at some time or other have difficulties in their relationships with other people, or at least feel that there is distress involved in relationships.
A useful preliminary procedure in improving relationships . . . is to face and realize that all people have a concept of what a relationship “should be” for themselves and generally unawarely assume that other people, including the ones they have or seek a relationship with, have the same concept of what a relationship means. . . . This is almost certain not to be true. Therefore, it is highly desirable to clarify each person’s concept of what they “want” and expect from the other person in the relationship and then to communicate this in great detail to the other person.
From The List, page 112
(Present Time 185, October 2016)