M.1. Co-Counseling Relationships [92]

The Co-Counseling relationship offers a unique opportunity to move toward total re-emergence from distress recordings.

In general, Co-Counselors are not to socialize with other Co-Counselors unless they had an established relationship before they began Re-evaluation Counseling (RC). Meetings of Co-Counselors must be organized primarily for discharge, re-evaluation, and group counseling activity. Eating food or participating in any other activity together is only to support this main purpose.

People who want to learn to Co-Counsel should be informed of the no-socializing policy and supported to discharge and think about it. The policy should be discussed in fundamentals classes. People who join those classes are required to follow the no-socializing policy while working to develop their own thinking about it. We should tell people who have learned Co-Counseling and want to become members of the RC Community that following the no-socializing policy is a requirement of Community membership.

Co-Counselors will not be recommended for RC leadership or certified as RC teachers unless they have clearly accepted the no-socializing policy. Co-Counselors who are not yet able to follow the no-socializing policy disqualify themselves from teaching or leading RC. The Regional Reference Person (RRP), consulting with local leadership, decides if a Co-Counselor who persists in violating this policy may continue to participate in Co-Counseling events.

SUMMARY OF REASON

(The full reason is lengthy and has been moved to the Appendix, Lengthy Reasons)

This Guideline supports and protects the one-point program of RC (see Guideline A.3., The One-Point Program of the RC Community). The only purpose of the Co-Counseling relationship is to assist each other to discharge and re-evaluate the distresses that interfere with our lives.

We want to create and maintain a safe environment for all people (particularly young people, women, and members of other groups targeted by oppression). We do not want undischarged patterns, including “frozen needs,” to interfere with the safety, trust, and effectiveness of the Co-Counseling relationship or the RC Community.

Adding activities that do not have re-emergence as the goal to a Co-Counseling relationship damages that relationship and is a drain on the resources of the RC Community. This has been our long-term experience. We can fulfill our human need for aware, supportive, social relationships by adding Co-Counseling to our relationships with friends and acquaintances.


[92] All of Chapter M. has the force of a requirement. 

 


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