I joined about sixty Nigerian RCers for the Parents Leading Parents Workshop [see article on page 19]. As usual with RC workshops, it was another opportunity to have countless sessions and loads of discharge. By the time I left for home I was light in spirit and unburdened at heart. I learned how to take care of children. I learned the difference between disciplining young people and guiding them with love.


Fela’s work helped create an ambience of calmness and relaxation, play and fun. I practically became a nine-year-old.


The following approaches to dealing with children formed the crux of Marya’s teachings: giving that special loving look, not a wicked or intimidating look • making them your friends, not scaring them away • talking, discussing, and finding agreement on what works because they, too, can reason • understanding what’s important to them and their emotions—give them accolades • more love and attention, not neglect • patience breeds connection—connection is key • knowing that the child is good and not bad • believing in the child, seeing his good side and speaking highly of him even in his absence • story-telling helps with bonding • advocating for the child at school as her parent—show her you have her back • not just loving them, but showing them you love them—show it! • learn the art of listening • play, play, play! • do not jump to conclusions • do not misjudge them or judge them wrongly • believe in them!


My highlight was meeting my wonderful RC family again.