Men Going Slowly as Clients

Last week I had my men’s support group work on the issue of pornography. It went great. I shared Dan’s posting[1] on the subject. Then I held tenaciously to his suggestion of going slowly. I also asked the men not to share details unless they were well connected to each other and to their own goodness.

No one shared details, and everyone discharged quite well. We were all inclined to jump over our feelings and our awareness of connection, and it turned out to be[2] a giant relief to go slowly.

Michael Saxe-Taller 
Berkeley, California, USA 
Reprinted from the RC e-mail 
discussion list for leaders of men

[1] See previous article.
[2] “It turned out to be” means it resulted in being.

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