Topic 28: Discouragement and Fighting for Ourselves

Everyone starts life expecting to be warmly welcomed and thought about. Instead, because of the accumulation of distress recordings on everyone, we may be cared for, but we are not seen as intelligent, complete human beings. Few parents understand our need to show and discharge the hard things that happened before and during our birth and in the early months and years of our lives.  So we are stopped from discharging. Distress recordings accumulate and increasingly limit our functional intelligence.

We needed resource, encouragement, and understanding if we were to prevail in the hurtful experiences. Without this, we gave up. We could not win, no matter how hard we tried. These undischarged early struggles left us all with distress recordings that include feelings of discouragement and defeat. These feelings of discouragement are always old, they are always from a distress recording, they are always about what happened in the past and not the present.

Things are different now. We can free ourselves from the effects of the early hurts. We can fight for ourselves and our minds. The defeats are not the problem; the problem is that we could not discharge on the defeats at that time. As a result we have been reliving the recordings of those defeats ever since. We can now decide to fight these early battles again. We can set directions against the distress, discharge, and win back every part of our mind. Each of us can and must make up our mind that we are worth fighting for completely; that no one is more important than us.

It is important to look at where we feel discouraged, not just try hard to keep going. This early discouragement confuses us about what is possible for ourselves and for the world. Without discharge, we resign ourselves to living with the limitations imposed by the early hurts and the accompanying feelings of defeat.

When we go back and work on these early defeats, we feel the feelings of defeat recorded in the original incidents. The client needs to make up his or her mind to face this material before starting the session. Otherwise the feelings of defeat may “convince” the client that this material is too unbearable to face and he or she should turn their attention (or we should turn our attention) to other topics. We can put our mind on the place where we had to give up and, with the support of the counselor, discharge. A lot of discharge will be needed. We can set our minds to do this work.

We can go back to face the early hurts without occupying the victim role (we were victims when the original hurts happened, but we are no longer). Instead we can oppose the hurt and go back to finish the battle we were unable to finish when we were small.  We can look at how hard it was without suffering the early situation again as if it were real today. With sufficient discharge, we will resolve the early hurt so that the past incidents no longer have an ongoing effect on us.  Every hurt can be discharged.

Quote:  DISCOURAGEMENT IS ALWAYS OLD. IT’S ALWAYS OLD. DISCOURAGEMENT IS NOT ABOUT THE PRESENT. IT’S ALWAYS A DISTRESS RECORDING. IT ATTACHES TO THE PRESENT. AS WITH ALL DISTRESSES, AS WE COLLECT MORE AND MORE OF IT, IT ATTACHES MORE EASILY TO MORE THINGS. ALMOST ANYTHING THAT’S NOT ABSOLUTELY PERFECT CAN FEEL DISCOURAGING, BUT THE FEELING IS ALWAYS OLD. IT’S HEVER ABOUT PRESENT TIME. IT’S ALWAYS ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED LONG AGO. Tim Jackins, “Discouragement is Always Old,” Present Time No. 148, page 4.

Reading for the student:  “Discouragement Is Always Old,” Present Time No. 148, pages 3–7

Additional readings for the teacher: “Going Back for the Young You,” Present Time No. 149, page 18; “Finishing an Unfinished Battle,” Present Time No. 165, pages 3–5; “Overcoming Early Defeats and Discouragements,” Tim Jackins, Present Time No. 162, pages 3–6


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